How to Play This Icebreaker Game
- 1Go around the group and invite each person to share three things:
- 2Rose: A highlight, success, or something positive from their week.
- 3Thorn: A challenge, stressor, or something that stuck with them.
- 4Bud: New ideas, opportunities, or something they are looking forward to.
- 5This framework helps teams move beyond surface-level updates.
Materials Needed
- Sticky notes (for in-person)
- Whiteboard or digital board
- Timer (for keeping time)
Variations
Async Version: Collect Rose/Thorn/Bud in a slack thread or document before the meeting; discuss common themes live.
Silent Starter: Give 60 seconds of silence for people to write down their thoughts before sharing.
Focus Rotation: Rotate the focus weekly—e.g., this week deeper dive into 'Buds' (Future ideas).
Facilitator Guide
Opening Script:
We're going to use a check-in exercise called 'Rose, Thorn, Bud' today. It allows us to share a bit more of our real selves. I'd like everyone to share: Your 'Rose' (a recent win or highlight), your 'Thorn' (a challenge you're facing), and your 'Bud' (something you're looking forward to). I'll go first to model...
Closing Script:
Thank you all for sharing so openly. It takes courage to voice our 'Thorns' as well as our 'Roses'. I hope this helps us realize we are supported in our challenges and celebrated in our successes.
Why This Works
Why this icebreaker game works: This activity works because it validates the full spectrum of work life—not just the wins. Sharing 'thorns' builds empathy and trust (psychological safety), while 'buds' orient the team toward the future. It turns a routine meeting into a moment of human connection.
Best For
Ideal icebreaker situations for this game include:
- Team retrospectives or weekly check-ins
- Building psychological safety in new or stressed teams
- Teams needing to reconnect after a busy period
- As a recurring team ritual
- Hybrid and remote teams
Important Notes
- Some thorns might be personal or heavy—validate them without trying to 'fix' them immediately
- Keep an eye on time (1-2 mins per person) to ensure everyone gets space
- The facilitator should model vulnerability first to set the safety level
- Allow 'pass' options for thorns if someone isn't comfortable sharing
Game FAQ
What if someone shares a very heavy Thorn?
Listen actively and thank them for their trust. Do not try to solve it in the group setting unless asked. Follow up 1:1 if needed.
What if someone shares a very heavy Thorn?
Listen actively and thank them for their trust. Do not try to solve it in the group setting unless asked. Follow up 1:1 if needed.
How do we keep it on time?
Timebox strictly (e.g., 90 seconds). If the team is large (>10), split into breakout groups or rotate who shares each week.
How do we keep it on time?
Timebox strictly (e.g., 90 seconds). If the team is large (>10), split into breakout groups or rotate who shares each week.
